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Comforting Gifts For Grieving Friends and Family

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  • 69.00
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    Wholesome Fruit Basket With Complimentary Gourmet Snacks$69.00
      This wholesome fruit basket is filled with a collection of the ripest fruit and most requested Wine Country gourmet fare! Two each of your favorite fruits: fresh, crisp apples, creamy, mouth-watering pears, and sweet, juicy oranges arrive at their peak ripeness. Complimentary items include sesame crackers, hummus, smoked Gouda cheese spread, dark chocolate truffles, cookies and more. Gift Size: 12" x 7" x 14"  
  • 89.50 onSALE
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    Refined Gourmet Gift Basket, Perfect For Any Occasion$96.50Sale $89.50
      This traditional gift basket combines old favorites and new surprises to create this large collection. Ghirardelli dark chocolate, tomato cheese baguettes, vanilla fudge with sea salt, garlic herb cheese wedges, poppy and sesame seed crackers, baked meatball parmesan pasta snacks, chocolate coconut macaroons, Godiva lava cake truffles, pretzel sticks, honey mustard dipping sauce and much more are impossible to resist. Gift Size: 18" x 9" x 13"    
  • 99.00
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    Deluxe Fresh Fruit & Sweet Treats Gift Basket
    Deluxe Fresh Fruit & Sweet Treats Gift Basket
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    $99.00
    A basket brimming with fresh fruit and sweet treats for all to enjoy! A delicious selection of fresh fruit with apples, kiwi, mandarins and pears, lemon blueberry bites, orange cream covered almonds, chocolate covered sea salt cashews, caramels and a tulip shaped sugar cookie are packed to order in a wicker basket and tied with a colorful ribbon. Gift Size: 14" x 11" x 9"
  • 139.00
    Executive Gourmet Gift Basket
    Corporate Occasion, Gourmet Gift Basket$139.00
    A beautiful gourmet gift basket for professional gift giving. Faux leather magazine tote includes assorted gourmet chocolates and candies, Caviar, Salmon fillets, wine and cheese biscuits, and more.
  • 69.99
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    Sending Prayers, Sympathy Gift Basket $69.99
    A beautiful, thoughtful comforting sympathy gift basket for those individuals coping with death and the grieving process.
  • 94.00
    With Sincerest Sympathy Gift Basket
    With Sincerest Sympathy Gift Basket
    With Sincerest Sympathy Gift Basket
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    $94.00
    A beautifully arranged sympathy basket filled with heartwarming keepsakes and gourmet comfort foods may go a long way towards lifting their spirits. 2 sizes available
  • 99.95
    Savory Gourmet Food Basket
    The Savory Gourmet Gift Basket$99.95
    A best seller! Family, friends and business associates will welcome the arrival of this delicious gourmet food gift basket for any occasion. Handsome faux leather canvas gift tray with gold and black handmade bow is filled with a variety of snacks like pretzels, salami, fine cheeses, and more. A fine gift for any friends, family, and professionals alike.
  • 110.00
    Serenity Sympathy Basket
    Serenity Sympathy Basket$110.00
    A breathtakingly beautiful sympathy gift basket filled with delicious comfort foods and a meaningful journal. (2 sizes available)
  • 79.95
    Healing Spa Gift Basket For Her
    Healing Spa Pampering Bath and Body Comforting Gift Basket for Her$79.95
    A gorgeous woven basket filled with everything she needs to feel rested and rejuvenated. A thoughtful get well, birthday or thank-you gift for women.
  • 150.00 onSALE
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    Fresh Fruit, Sweet and Savory Snacks Gourmet Gift$195.00Sale $150.00
    A gourmet assortment of fresh fruit with sweet and savory snacks compliments traditional pears, apples, oranges, and mandarins. These fruits are beautifully arranged with artichoke spinach dip, Cello parmesan cheese whisps, sea salt caramels, cinnamon toffee almonds, baklava bites, strawberry jam and more round out this delicious gift. Presented in a handwoven keepsake basket. The perfect gift for a family or a large gathering. Gift Size: 18" x 13" x 11"
  • 88.00
    Our Sincerest Condolences, Gift Basket
    Sincere Condolences Gift Basket, Send The Gift Of Comfort $88.00
    A thoughtful condolence gift unlike anything else they may receive, this graceful gift basket is designed to encourage those grieving a loss.
  • 89.50 onSALE
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    Footprints In The Sand, Gift Basket$109.00Sale $89.50
    An elegant and rich gift basket features a beautiful ceramic mug, tasty treats, and assorted coffees and teas.
  • 69.90 onSALE
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    An Uplifting Gift Basket to Offer Encouragement In Tough Times$79.00Sale $69.90
    An uplifting gift basket for anyone going through tough times and needing a little encouragement. This special gift basket is designed to help lift their spirits and provide a bit of inspiration and comfort for whatever situation they are facing. It includes delicious treats, teas, coffees and an encouraging gift book! A beautiful gift basket.
  • 68.00 New Item
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    Blessed Beyond Measure, Inspiring Faith Based Gift Basket $68.00
    Be a blessing to someone - send a Christian gift basket to let them know they are important and that you are thinking of them. Filled with delicious snacks and scripture filled journal, anyone will be thrilled when this beautiful arrives.
  • 79.95
    special gift basket for women
    Gifts And Goodies, Special Delivery Gift Basket For Her$79.95
    Bright, bold, cheery, and colorful, this is a gift basket that will brighten any day or any room. Anyone with a sweet tooth will thoroughly enjoy all the unique treats loaded into this basket.
  • 109.95
    Gourmet Basket Gift
    The Renaissance Gift Basket$109.95
    Brimming with a mouthwatering collection of assorted gourmet snacks and coffees, a truly ultimate experience awaits this fortunate recipient.
  • 59.50
    loving memory sympathy basket
    With Loving Memory, Sympathy Basket$59.50
    Bring hope to the heart and strength to the soul with this comforting sympathy gift to help them make it through tough times. They will be touched and impressed by your thoughtful presentation.
  • 76.00
    gourmet food gift basket
    Metropolitan Gourmet Food Basket$76.00
    Bursting with mouth-watering flavors for every palate, this food-filled basket is charmingly presented in a reusable faux leather tray.
  • 68.00
    Trust In The Lord, Christian Gift Basket
    Trust In The Lord, Christian Gift Basket$68.00
    Celebrate, encourage, sympathize or comfort with this Christian-themed gift basket; it makes a perfect for almost any occasion.
  • 59.00
    Cheerful Thinking of You Gift Basket for A Special Women
    Cheerful Thinking of You Gift Basket for A Special Women$59.00
    Cheerful Thinking of You Gift Basket for Women is a wonderful alternative to flower bouquets. Send this unique thinking of you gift delivered to their door with your personal message of best wishes. Show someone special that you're thinking of them today.
  • 98.00
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    Sweet Blessings Christian Gift Basket for Any Occasion$98.00
    Christian gift baskets are a great gift idea to express almost any sentiment. From support and encouragement to sympathy and get well, this basket fits all occasions.
  • 69.95
    Sugar Free Healthy Living Basket
    Sugar Free Healthy Living Basket$69.95
    Delicious sugar free snacks and sweets gift basket. A great alternative for those with diabetic needs or just trying to cut down on sugar.
  • 79.95
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    Comfort and Compassion, Uplifting Christian Gift Basket$79.95
    Everyone could use a little more peace in their life. This Christian gift basket is designed just for that purpose. Whether it's illness, loss of a loved one, or a need for encouragement and inspiration; no matter what they are going through this thoughtful Christian gift basket offers comfort and compassion.
  • 95.00 New Item
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    Comfort Gift Basket For Those Going Through Difficult Times$95.00
    Express your feelings with a thoughtful gift that lets them know you are with them and thinking of them as they go through whatever it is that has such a tight grip on them. Nobody likes to feel alone. Comforting gift basket features "How To Pray When You Need A Miracle” and “I’ll Be Praying For You” touching gift book written primarily for coping with difficult times.
  • 89.95 New Item
    Get Well Soon Bear Hugs, Cheery Get Well Gift Idea
    Get Well Soon Bear Hugs, Cheery Get Well Gift Idea$89.95
    Get Well gifts are one of the best ways to help someone recover from whatever has them down. This cheery get well gift idea will brighten any room, bring a smile and help the recovery process.
  • 49.95
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    Ghirardelli Chocolate Gift Tower, Best Chocolates Anywhere
    Ghirardelli Chocolate Gift Tower, Best Chocolates Anywhere
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    $49.95
    Ghirardelli chocolate gift tower with a sampling of all things Ghirardelli!
  • 56.00
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    Quiet Moments Sympathy Gift$56.00
    Gift of comfort includes coffee, snacks, framed poem and Quiet Times, a touching gift book of encouragement for those coping with difficult times.
  • 69.50
    Low-fat-gift-basket
    Low Fat Heart Healthy Gift Basket Of Healthy Treats and Snacks$69.50
    Give your loved one the gift of delicious, heart-healthy foods with this beautifully packaged gift basket. Filled with granola bars, trail mix and a host of other tasty treats, this basket makes an ideal gift for anyone who is serious about fitness or who are following a low-fat diet. All the foods in this collection come arranged in a stained wicker basket that can be reused.
  • 69.00
    basket of sympathy gifts
    Sympathy Gift Basket To Ease Grieving Minds & Restore Hope$69.00
    Grieve sympathy gift basket designed for those dealing with loss. Comforting gourmet snacks and inspirational thoughts for those who are grieving.
  • 165.00
    Gift of Encouragement
    Gift Basket To Encourage and Lift Your Spirits$165.00
    Have a friend or loved one needing a little extra encouragement? Help lift their spirits and provide encouragement for any situation they're facing.
  • 49.90
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    Chicken Noodle Soup Feel Better Soon Get Well Gift Box
    Chicken Noodle Soup Feel Better Soon Get Well Gift Box
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    $49.90
    Here's the perfect little cheer up gift to cure boredom when ill. Get well soon theme includes soup, snacks, and puzzle books arranged in a reusable gift box with cellophane, handmade bow, and your card message. Soup-themed gift box is great for storage. Dimensions: 16L x 12W x 8H in.
  • 76.00
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    Comfort Gift Basket To Express Your Concern, Sympathy, or Support $76.00
    If you know someone who is going through something difficult send this thoughtful gift basket of comfort to let them know they are not alone.
  • 68.50
    A Ray of Sunshine, Feel Better Soon Gift Box
    A Ray of Sunshine, Feel Better Soon Gift Box$68.50
    Know someone feeling a little under the weather, a little blue? Send them our Rays of Sunshine Get Well Gift Box and brighten their day today. They're sure to feel better soon after receiving this cheerful gift.
  • 83.50
    Gourmet Comfort Food Gift Basket
    Gourmet Comfort Food Gift Basket$83.50
    Know someone who is sad, stressed out, sick or broken-hearted? Treat them to this basket filled with a host of delicious gourmet comfort foods!
  • 78.00
    Thinking Of You Gift Basket
    Nothing Says Thinking Of You Better Than A Basket of Well Wishes$78.00
    Lift their spirits with this beautiful recovery gift basket of scrumptious gourmet food, sweets, treats and gifts to brighten their day. Available in two convenient sizes. Select desired size at checkout.
  • 59.95
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    Send Beary Best Wishes, Adorable Teddy Bear Gift Baskets & Gifts$59.95
    Melt their heart with delicious, mouthwatering sweets and this soft white teddy bear sitting next to a darling hand-painted, porcelain planter. Your gift arrives adorned with white tea roses and topped with a designer bow; this sweet teddy bear basket is a fantastic gift for almost any occasion!
  • 58.00
    Thinking Of You Teddy Bear Hug, Gift Basket
    Thinking Of You Teddy Bear Hug, Gift Basket$58.00
    Nothing feels better than a bear hug. Send this cute feel-good gift collection to let someone special know that you're thinking of them. A charming bear with your Thinking Of You message arrives with cranberry sesame cookies, Ghirardelli milk and dark chocolate, Ahmad English breakfast tea, caramel popcorn, Godiva milk chocolate truffles and more to convey your feelings to family and friends, clients and co-workers. Gift Size: 12" x 6" x 15"
  • 105.00
    The Christian Heart Gift Basket
    The Christian Heart Gift Basket$105.00
    Our inspirational gift basket filled with gourmet food and Christian gifts creates a meaningful gift for any occasion.
  • 139.00
    The Grand Gourmet Gift Basket
    Over-The-Top Gourmet Food Basket$139.00
    Overflowing with delicious gourmet goodies, sweets, and snacks this basket is the perfect gift for groups, business and family occasions.
  • 105.00 New Item
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    Tea Lovers Gift Basket, Tropical Tea Pot Gift Set$105.00
    Send this beautiful, eye-catching tea gift basket with a tropical flair design. Stunning gift basket arrives filled with an exotic ceramic teapot and a host of tea time gourmet goodies for them to enjoy!  Gift occasion suggestions: Mother's Day, Birthday, Get Well, Sympathy, any occasion.
  • 109.00
    condolences
    Remembering With Love, Thoughtful Condolences Gift Basket
    Remembering With Love, Thoughtful Condolences Gift Basket
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    $109.00
    Send this caring expression of your deepest sympathy to make a difference during their time of grief. Your thoughtfulness will be remembered.
  • 86.50 onSALE
    perfect gourmet
    High-End Gourmet Basket Full of Delicious Premium Food Treats$99.00Sale $86.50
    Send this generous, enticing and impressive array of gourmet food. A gourmet food gift perfect for any corporate or personal gift giving no matter what the occasion.
  • 89.00
    Comfort Sympathy Basket
    Comfort and Hope, Sympathy Gift Basket$89.00
    Send this lovely gift basket to express your sincere sympathy to those who are grieving the loss of a loved one; your kind gesture will mean so much.
  • 76.00
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    Welcoming Gourmet Gift Basket Of Mouth Watering Goodness $76.00
    Send this welcoming gourmet gift basket. A wonderful gift to usher in new seasons, friendships, new homes, new neighbors, get well wishes or to send greetings to someone far away. Whatever the occasion this lovely gift will be well received. They will enjoy exploring flavor after flavor of mouth-watering goodness.
  • 36.50
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    Feel Better Soon Care Package$36.50
    Send your get well wishes with our Feel Better Care Package the perfect something for anyone under the weather. Feel Better Care Package contains a mix of healthy snacks and comfort food.
  • 78.00
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    Sugar-Free Gift Basket For Diabetic Or Health Conscious Friends$78.00
    Snacking just got a whole lot better with this sugar-free goodie gift basket! Say you care with a gift that cares for the health of your loved ones with the Simply Sugar Free Gift Basket filled with sugar free goodies. This hard-to-find gift for the diabetic or for the dieter is perfect for those who are health conscious.
  • 76.00
    Rustic Charm Wooden Planter Gift Basket With Tasty Delights
    Rustic Charm Wooden Planter Gift Basket With Tasty Delights$76.00
    Special gourmet gift basket with sweet treats for women. Makes a great get well or birthday gift idea for mothers or grandmothers. Features a wooden planter bucket with cookies and decadent chocolates.
  • 88.00
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    Breakfast Gift Tray, Pancakes, Syrup, Preserves, Coffee & More$88.00
    Start their day off right with this wooden breakfast tray brimming with Stonewall Kitchen pancake and waffle mix, Maine wild blueberry syrup, scone mix, strawberry preserves, cookies, French roast coffee, hot cocoa, English tea, and two oversized mugs so they can share the joy of this morning pick-me-up. Gift Size: 19" x 12" x 6"
  • 78.00
    Christian Grace Gift Basket
    Grace, Christian Gift Arrangement
    Grace, Christian Gift Arrangement
    Average rating:
    $78.00
    Stunning and Serene, a one-of-a-kind gift! A strikingly attractive and impressive gift paired with an exquisite selection of fine gourmet food gifts.
  • 79.95 onSALE
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    Comfort Gift Basket, Sympathy Gift For A Grieving Heart$86.00
    Sympathy for those grieving can be tough to express but this combination of grief help and comfort foods is sure to be appreciated.
  • 89.95
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    Worldly Gourmet Coffee Basket, A Coffee Lover's Dream Gift$89.95
    The aromatic coffee scent will greet the recipient as soon as they open this elegant gold coffee gift basket. This coffee gift is filled with coffee, tea, and food to enjoy with friends, family or co-workers.
  • 69.95 New Item
    Serenity Prayer Gift Basket
    Serenity Prayer Gift Basket$69.95
    The Serenity Prayer has helped many people through difficult times with words of acceptance and wisdom.
  • 78.50 onSALE
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    Tropical Treats Gift, Refreshing Goodies Basket & Serving Tray$89.00
    This beautiful gift tray will make a wonderful addition to any home year-round. It is a refreshingly beautiful gift! They will also enjoy all of the delicious tropical treats we have artfully arranged in this stunning gift.
  • 69.00
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    Soup's On, Delicious Hearty Artisan Soup Gift $69.00
    This delicious gift is fun to give and so easy for your recipients to serve and enjoy. Hearty chicken noodle artisan soup mix with old-fashioned homemade flavor and plenty of noodles will take the chill out of a cold day; spinach and cheese bruschetta, hot honey crunch mix, hummus, crackers, bacon and cheddar cheese spread, breadsticks and Himalayan salt are the perfect complements. A white oversized soup bowl, wooden spoon, and serving tray complete this carefree assortment that will be welcome in any home. Gift Size: 15" x 12" x 6"
  • 150.00
    The Entertainer Gift Basket with Books, Puzzle Books, Soup and Snacks
    The Entertainer Gift Basket with Books, Puzzle Books, Soup and Snacks$150.00
    This entertaining gift basket is perfect for birthday gift giving, sending get well soon wishes, or to say thank you. Send your best wishes with two books, two puzzle books, and gourmet treats! A cheerful gift designed to lift spirits and brighten their day.
  • 104.00
    5 Star Gourmet Gift Basket
    Bountiful 5 Star Gourmet Gift Basket$104.00
    This gorgeous high-end food basket brimming with scrumptious gourmet goodness is perfect for corporate, personal, or family gift giving occasions.
  • 140.00
    Special Gourmet Treasure Chest
    Large Gourmet Treasure Trunk, Perfect Gift For Any Occasion$140.00
    This incredible gift basket that won't be forgotten. It's perfect for an office party, CEO, celebrity, your most important client, friends or family member.
  • 69.00
    Gift Basket Filled With Warm and Cozy Comfort Foods
    Gift Basket Filled With Warm and Cozy Comfort Foods$69.00
    This newest addition to our gift line is already a favorite around here. It's a beautiful collection of specialty gourmet gifts selected to warm them from the inside out.
  • 69.95
    Relaxing Gift Basket for Someone Special
    Relaxing Gift Basket for Someone Special$69.95
    This special gift basket for women is a delightful and relaxing treat that any woman will love. She will never forget your gift and thoughtfulness!
  • 75.00
    Sympathy Gift Basket, In Remembrance
    Sympathy Gift Basket, In Remembrance$75.00
    This very beautiful sympathy gift basket is loaded with comfort gifts for those grieving a loss. Features the touching book Words of Comfort, When You Lose a Loved One.
  • 78.00
    Gourmet Sweets and Treats Gift Basket
    Gourmet Sweets and Treats Gift Basket$78.00
    Treat co-workers, clients, friends, and loved ones with this abundant snack basket filled with a huge selection of tasty gourmet sweets and treats!
  • 68.00 onSALE
    Cozy Comforts, Gift Tray Filled With Delicious Comfort Foods
    Cozy Comforts, Gift Tray Filled With Delicious Comfort Foods $73.50Sale $68.00
    Truth: Comfort food gifts are always welcome. No matter what time of year or what the occasion, everyone loves comfort food gifts.
  • 69.95
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    Gift Basket of Relaxing Lavender Spa Gifts$69.95
    What better gift can you give her than a gift of relaxation? This lovely floral planter brings gifts of candles, chocolates and bath accessories to create a genuinely peaceful moment.
  • 59.00
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    Sympathy Gift Basket, Hope & Healing For Grieving Hearts $59.00
    When it's hard to know just what to say this comforting gift basket will say it for you. An elegant gift basket for sending you sympathy message and words to comfort those experiencing grief and loss.
  • 59.95
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    Words To Comfort Sympathy Basket$59.95
    When it's hard to know just what to say this comforting sympathy gift basket will say it for you.
  • 79.95
    Cabin Fever Survival Gift Package
    Cabin Fever Survival Care Package
    Cabin Fever Survival Care Package
    Average rating:
    $79.95
    Whether they are laid up, laid off, sad, mad, or home ill with a chill, this gift basket is the perfect remedy for whatever ails them.
  • 97.00
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    A Gift Basket For Grandparents$97.00
    Whether this if for Grandma, Grandpa or both, they will love it! A lovely gift basket designed especially for grandparents. Not much compares to the love of a grandparent. Express your appreciation and love for them with this unique gift basket for grandparents.
  • 88.00
    Thoughtful Sympathy Gift To Extend Your Condolences
    Thoughtful Sympathy Gift To Extend Your Condolences
    Thoughtful Sympathy Gift To Extend Your Condolences
    Average rating:
    $88.00
    You'll make a difference in their day, and your thoughtfulness will be remembered when you send this caring expression of your deepest sympathy.

How to Comfort Those Who Have Lost a Loved One

Reach out to your family and friends during times of grief. Let them know that your thoughts are with them. At times of bereavement beautifully designed sympathy baskets and comfort gifts are a wonderful way to convey your sympathy, condolence, thoughtfulness and respect.

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  • Helping Others Cope With Grief & End of Life

    Your friend has just received the shocking news that her cousin has died suddenly in a car accident. She and her cousin were very close, and she is devastated. You have just found out about the accident and want very much to help her through her grief, but you feel helpless yourself. The truth is that you haven't the slightest idea what to do or say to comfort your friend. You feel a little nervous about calling--and the mere thought of visiting causes even greater consternation--because you aren't at all confident that you are capable of truly comforting her.

    First, know that it's completely natural to feel inadequate during times of loss. Most of us do. Death is a formidable opponent. You need not consider yourself weak or incompetent simply because you're finding it difficult to stand against this dark and mysterious specter. Despite your lack of confidence in your own ability to fulfill the comfort-giving role, you do possess inner resources that you can draw upon to help both you and your friend get through it.

    Here are a few suggestions, from one who has been there (there being the receiving end of such comfort) on how you can help your friend--or relative, neighbor, coworker, or classmate--through one of the most trying periods of a person's life: the grieving period immediately following a loved one's death.

    First, be honest, be real, and above all, be yourself. Your friend will not want you to try to be someone you aren't because tragedy has struck her life. In fact, she will need to be able to depend on the person she knows you to be--the person she liked enough to allow into her heart as her friend before she was grieving. She will need the "genuine article" to help bring her a sense of stability at a time when her world may seem to be spinning out of control.

    Don't be afraid to tell her that you are SO sorry for her loss (since I'm sure that you are.) Even when you can't seem to find the right words to express your deepest feelings, those three words, "I'm so sorry," spoken with undisguised emotion, can communicate volumes to a person who is grieving! Then, honestly admit to her that you just don't know what to say but you want her to know that you are there for her. She will appreciate your honesty. Give her a hug, and then be prepared to listen! Be patient, loving, understanding, and kind while she deals with the initial shock of her loved one's death, which can be quite disorienting.

    Don't worry if she walks around in a daze at times --particularly at first, when the tragedy is fresh in her mind and heart and she hasn't fully processed the reality of it. This is natural. This is her mind's way of protecting itself from the emotional trauma that sudden death so savagely forces upon us. During those times, she will be somewhat insulated from feeling her loss so acutely. A certain degree of denial--or inability to accept the loss of her loved one--is also normal. Again, this is a protective mechanism that our minds initiate when circumstances in our lives are too traumatic to accept all at once. In time it will lessen and usually will not present a problem if not greatly prolonged.

    Don't pressure her to eat. She will probably not have much of an appetite at first--especially right after the incident that caused her loved one's death, and even more so if she happened to be present to witness it. You needn't worry about this. You may offer her food, but do so gently, compassionately, and without pressure. In a short time, this too will pass, and her appetite will return to normal. At first, she may walk around "starving" for hours but simply not be able to bring herself to eat. But she will be OK. You must be patient. Yet it never hurts to offer a gentle reminder now and then--or even to bring her a little something, since she herself is too preoccupied, or too anesthetized, to deal with such mundane matters.

    Allow her to cry whenever she feels the need, without letting yourself be embarrassed by her tears or thinking that you will be helping her if you can get her to stop. Crying is an important part of her healing and is actually good therapy, because it is very cleansing to the emotions. During periods of grief, crying is a very good sign. It means that the bereaved person is squarely facing the pain of her loss, rather than avoiding or denying it. She needs to allow herself to grieve--and so do you. Just hold her while she weeps. This will be a great comfort to her.

    If she becomes angry over her loss, allow her to vent, offering her a sympathetic ear. Not everyone will experience the anger phase of grief, but those who do should not be made to feel guilty about it. After a time, however, if she remains in that angry place, try to gently coax her out of it, injecting a mellow dose of reason into your conversations with her and offering a fresh perspective. This will help to create emotional balance and hopefully will also enable her to let go of any bitterness she may still be harboring over her loss.

    And please don't be afraid to talk about the loved one who has died, fearing that it might upset her! Her grief is always with her, whether you talk about her loved one or not. She will need to come to terms with her loss, and part of the process includes talking about things her loved one has said or done, positive or negative aspects of his or her personality, feelings of guilt or regret that she may have, and even the death itself. Let your friend take the lead, though; then gently join her in her reminiscences and encourage her to begin to look toward the future as soon as she is able.

    Offer to help her in every way you can. If she will receive it, point her toward God, who is the greatest Comforter of all after the death of a loved one. Having personally experienced the death of someone close very suddenly and unexpectedly--and having been fortunate enough to have the loving support of family and friends--I know that such compassionate gestures are helpful.

    God bless you for caring about your grieving friend!

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